WEEK THREE : LIST YOUR GUEST

Guest list can be length from your computer table to your kitchen and come back to your computer table. You will think that everyone need to be notify and be invite. Because what, we are Malaysia. Other country may shortlisted their guest list according to their group of network. But for us, as bound to the rule of harmony society, consensus that we hold need to be respect. From family members to neighbours to office mate, forum friends and if your child were to sent to day care centre…his/her friend plus nanny need to be invite.

When you have this problem, always look back to your budget allocation. Are the budget enough to cover everybody that will attend your baby birthday? Are food that you budgeted is enough to cover everybody?

As for the solutions, your guest list can be divide into couple of group such as :

1. Family- both side parents, both side siblings, aunties, uncles and nephew

2. Friend- close friend or aquitance/ facebook

3. Officemate

4.Forum or bloggers friend

5. Neighbours

Every circle of group you can estimate how many person you want to invite. This will really help you to stay in your budget.

RSVP- this is what Malaysian afraid and lazy to do!

In most countries in the world, rsvp is the most important things for them. Why? From there we can actually planned our party smoothly. But as Malaysian tradition, rsvp will show that the person who invite is not sincere enough to have the guest to be in their party. As for my family, we do rsvp but my mom especially she said…”kalu nak buat kenduri kasi orang makan jangan kedekut” but the things is if let say you prepare food for 50 people but the guest attend is 100 people, where to get another 50 people catering in short time. Another pro of rsvp is no wastage happen. You will know exactly how much you want to prepare the food.

Birthday card with rsvp instructions

So do please put rsvp into your invitation and if they did not give answer within a week. Please do call the list of people to confirm their attendance. This is the way that you may know how many people will come and can plan your baby activity. Too many will give headache and stress your baby. Especially when your baby is not really good with outsider people.

In their early stage of 1 year, they are learning communication and developing trust to outsider. If we did not count their development and feelings towards this situation, they definately feel frustated and started to make noise. You will not enjoy your party and you need to concerntrate to your baby only and the purpose of having chit chat with your friend will not happen. Guest will feel that their attendance is not importance.

Yes, people word can be sharp as knife but you as organizer need to be firm. I had once people talk behind me about my wedding. I believe that I have invited all my friend, people that I know but if you were not in my invitation, either I forget or I purposely not intend to invite you at my wedding. But mostly I managed to invite everbody only a few that I really forget and lost contact with my dear friends…..

Next week, favourite topic for all…choice of theme. I will posting lots and lots of picture related to party theme, contact of suppliers to get your party theme succesfull. And moms and bloggers out there watch out the black is coming to town!!!!

xoxoxo

Lydia Nasir aka Mama Rayyan